Meet My Daughter

Yesterday just before 9pm (Norwegian time), I became a dad!

The baby was almost two weeks over her due date, so two days ago my partner was put in hospital so they could start inducing labor.

Nowadays dads are not allowed to stay in the hospital with their partners, to diminish the risk of spreading the coronavirus. So I had to go home until the contractions started. Not great, but we kept in contact via our phones.

Yesterday at 11am she called me up to let me know that the water had broken and her contractions had just started, so I was now allowed to come in. I called my mother, and she drove me to the hospital. I got there around noon.

When I got there my partner had already been put on a drip to boost her contractions. She had also decided against getting an epidural shot in her spine. Most people get that, as that significantly lowers how much pain you are in during contractions. But there is a tiny chance of long-term complications, and you may lose out on that major rush of joy from seeing the baby for the first time. And the epidural also does not help for the pain during the last stretch of the birth, the part where the baby is actually coming out. So she felt better about not risking it, and I supported that decision.

What followed were nine hours of gradually increasingly painful contractions for my partner, and they got bad rather early in that timeline. But she bravely fought her way through them, taking solace the calm periods between the contractions.

Both I and the hospital staff were supportive through the contractions, something she said was very helpful. That support came in the form of putting a hand where she wanted it, getting a cold cloth for her forehead, verbally letting her know what a great job she was doing, and handing her ice-cold water through a straw. I also paid attention to the monitor measuring her labor contractions, and let her know when she was over the worst part of a contraction and on the way down.

Then suddenly, the hospital personnel decided that it was time for her to start pushing. And after a relative short time of pushing, compared to how long the contractions lasted, suddenly our little baby was laying on her mothers chest, confused and crying. And her parents were crying too!

I got to stay there for a few hours while they did some post-birth routines. But after that I had to go home again. Again, no dads are allowed to stay there for long during these coronavirus days.

While I were there I did get to hold her for the first time. She was not happy about being taken away from her mom at first, but she calmed down eventually.

I can’t even imagine how strange this experience must have been for her. It was weird enough for us, and we knew what was going on! Too bad that once she is old enough to answer that question she won’t remember the answer anymore.

But then it was time for me to leave. I called my mother, and she picked me up about 1am. Could not sleep at first when I got home, so I took a long warm shower. I think I fell asleep around 02:30.

So now we’re all caught up! I don’t get to visit due to the outbreak. So I’ll just have to wait to see them until I can pick them up to go home. That may be as soon as in a few hours from now. Normally they would stay two to three days, but everything is weird with the corona about.

But my partner just sent me that picture above, so it looks like they are ok!

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  1. Congratulations. I’m glad you got to be there for the birth, even in these crazy times. Hopefully you and your wife and daughter will all be together again soon.

  2. Congratulations on becoming a Dad. Luckily you were able to lend your support during the birth and I’m sure they’ll shortly both be back home with you.

  3. Well done SindrElf. She is a delightful little girl. Our first born was a girl too and she is one of the best things that ever happened to us.
    Leslie xoxo

    1. Thanks πŸ™‚
      I have only known her for a few hours, and I already think she is amazing πŸ˜„

  4. Congratulations! You’re story brought happy tears to my eyes πŸ™‚ It’s truly wonderful to be able to celebrate a new life in the midst of this most stressful time, and I thank you for sharing your good news with us! I wish your new family much health and swift and safe homecoming!

  5. Congratulations! So pleased for you! Sad the current circumstances meant you couldn’t spend more time in the hospital with them.

    1. Thank you πŸ˜„

      Yeah, and they ended up having to stay in the hospital for four days after the birth too. We stayed in contact via phone whenever she had the oppertunity, but she was busy with the baby most of the time. But it helped us both whenever we could talk. Luckily the hospital staff was helpful, but unlike me they had a lot of other people to think about aswell. I could have given them my full attention if I had been there.

      I instead spent those four days fixing stuff in the apartment, and distracting myself by playing Kingdom Hearts 3 on Playstation 4.
      We used to have a room full of boxes from when we moved here, so I got to turn that into a baby room while they were at the hospital.

      Today she’s been home for four days, and last night we all got a full night sleep for the first time since she got home πŸ˜›
      But besides the other nights, everything has been going very well!

      1. Haha, sounds like a good way to spend those days at least. It’s good you could use the time to create your baby room.

        Glad you managed to get your first good nights sleep together too!

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